Hi guys, I translated and summarized this article that contains testimonials from women who dated drug dealers for today's post. I hope it helps to better understand the reality here!
In Brazil, the main reason that leads women to incarceration
is drug trafficking. Or the association with that crime. And the number of
women who go to jail on account of this keeps growing: 567% between 2000 and
2014 ....
L. 24 years old -
“Yes, it's good to feel respected and to be known as the
boss's wife,” admits L., 24, and a resident of Heliópolis, a neighborhood in
the south of São Paulo that houses a favela with the same name....
She has been in this condition for almost three years. She get
expensive gifts, no one challenges her in the favela, and walked the street
with an unconcern that was unusual for other residents. Power was seductive,
but his life was also surrounded by fear. “There were several escapes from the
police! And quite violent fights between him and other guys, ”he says. Violence
also spilled over into the home. “When I met him, at the age of 21, I didn't
know he was connected to the drug trade, but I soon saw the things that were
happening around me, the drugs, the money, the weapons, and one day he opened
everything. And then the fights started, out of jealousy, and I got beaten up a
few times. I tried to get away, it was suffocating, but I couldn't. ”...
The final straw, according to L., was a punch to the jaw
that sent her to the hospital for three days. “After that, I only spoke to him
again when he was shot and they called me. I stayed with him until I was
discharged. I took it home and everything, but I said that from then on we
would just be friends. ”...
B. 19 years old -
“When you date a drug dealer, everyone who hates him will hate
you too. We left the house without knowing if we were going to come back alive.
I was very scared. All the time. And I'm not just talking about other thugs,
no, there's the police too, ”says B., 19, 8 months pregnant. When she said she
was expecting a child, she was blocked on social media and now he ignores her.
B. says that in the beginning, when the father of the boy moved to her street,
the relationship was full of affection. He was very polite and playful. “Then
he showed himself who he really was, complained about my clothes, fiddled with
my cell phone, deleted fotos, almost punched me. ”...
She does not have many expectations that the child's father
will participate in her upbringing. But she says she will not prevent contact
between the two. “I just don't want him to be intimate with me. I learned the
lesson. Dating these guys is sleeping without knowing if you're going to wake
up.”
R. 16 years old –
“Wow, it feels very powerful, it looks like you're protected
and the ego goes beyond the ceiling. You are not afraid of anything. ” Still,
life with a drug dealer put 16-year-old teenager at risk sometimes. “He was
being sought and the police almost caught him at my house. We already had to
hide in the bush too. The worst thing is this, that you never know when the
police will show up again. You can be arrested at any time or someone may want
to kill you,” she recalls. "But the danger is also a fetish, and it was
like that with us, a casual fuck." The involvement, although not
monogamous, lasted about six months. “I was 16 and he was 21 years old.
Even so, he was too jealous. He never forbid me anything, on
the contrary, he was a love with me. They (drug dealers) are overprotective,
caring. ”
The relationship also involved cumplicity. The two talked a
lot, but the coldness of the boyfriend scared R. a few times: “When he went to
kill a boy and stopped by my house to tell me after the act, he acted as if
nothing had happened”. According to her, whoever sees her ex-partner on the
street would never say that he leads this life: “silly face, but a super
calculating mind”
G. 18 years old –
“At any time in the morning, if someone approached me on the
street, there were always some people watching him. If anyone robbed me they
would not go far, because the guards would go after it. In fact, I felt watched
even inside the house. ” G, now 18, dated a drug dealer who worked on his
street, in the north of São Paulo. She even admits that what attracted her the
most was her partner's "job": "I think I only became interested
in him when I knew what he was doing".
“The best thing was this feeling of power and danger. And
the gifts. Like clothes or take me wherever I wanted. I just had to choose: if
he wanted something or to go somewhere, he would always find a way and do what
I wanted"
G, then 16, says that the 24-year-old was calm, but also
very jealous. "He would intimidate anyone, he was terrifying" The
young man wanted to put a ring on her finger but G. says her family would never
accept it. "I had to keep it hidden and he was always showing me to the
world."
Her friends also tried to dissuade her from the idea of
taking the dangerous relationship forward, but “it just motivated me to want
more”. Safety and respect, that was what she liked best...
Until the day she found out he was married: "One day a
message came asking why I was talking to her husband." I blocked her, but
my life turned to hell. He kept calling me, he created several fake Facebook
profiles to talk to me, he said he loved me. I suffered more than anything, but
I didn't go back ”
I hope you understand in a better way how things work around the favela.
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